Final 4 Self Esteem Boosters!

Next week I am publishing an article in response to some questions my readers have.  I am getting ahead of myself.  Right now it’s time for the final four Self Esteem Boosters.

Final 4 Self Esteem Boosters:

1. Speak with pride and confidence:

A lot of people make the mistake to put them selves down in front of others.  You hear it all the time: “I am not good enough!” or “I can’t do that!” or “No, no not me!”.  It’s good being humble and a bit shy.  It’s bad putting yourself down.  Speak with confidence and trust yourself.  
Remember: others perceive you the way you perceive yourself!

1. Speak well of others:

This kind of goes without saying but still, don’t degrade others with your words.  You wouldn’t like it either when someone says something negative about you. Besides, talking positive about others teaches you to talk positive about yourself.
Remember: what comes around goes around.  

1. Remind yourself of your own strengths:

Everybody has something good to offer.  For one person it may be they are good at sowing, another may be good at math and a third one still is good with kids.  Everybody has a unique and special gift.  You do too.  Know your weak spots but focus on your strengths.  It will make you feel good.
Remember: You do have control over your life to some extend.

1. Be honest with yourself:

Don’t go around bragging about stuff you don’t know or don’t have.  It doesn’t do anyone any good, especially yourself.  Like I said, know your weak spots and learn how to strengthen them.  You’ll be surprised to find what you’re capable of.
Remember: Practice makes perfect.


So there you have them, 8 self-esteem boosters that are sure to get you closer to success when practiced with due diligence.  Above all remember this: Stop Being So Negative!

Life throws us all a curveball so now and then.  Don’t dwell on it.  Pick up the pieces and move on.  Don’t figure out what you did wrong and what you can’t do.  Instead, learn from your mistakes to do better.

A True Story Of What Can Happen When You Focus On Your Strengths!

One of my brothers, plagued his entire childhood with severe asthma which left him with a frail and thin body, decided at age 21 he wanted to go into the computer business.  He had neither the money nor the experience to start his own venture.  As such he joined an established computer company in the hopes of getting experience.

Being the new guy, other employees decided to have some fun with him.  Only 2 days into his job they passed him the phone saying only: “This customer wants to talk to you.”  

Unaware that the person on the other line was not only the company’s largest customer but was also known for her fierce, very bad temper and obnoxious attitude, my brother grab the phone and in a charming voice said “Hello!”

Rather than being greeted back, he got snarled at; to the utter content of the other employees who sat at their desks laughing themselves to tears.

To everyone’s surprise my brother didn’t make any apologies that he had only been 2 days on the job.  He also didn’t pass the phone to someone else.  Instead, he started to talk to the lady in a quiet, polite and soft manner.

Bit by bit my brother calmed the lady down.  And to the utter amazement of everyone in the computer department he had not only gotten the lady, known for her rude ways, to smile and tell jokes, he ended up with an order of well over $500,000.

When the boss heard about my brother’s feat, he asked to see him in his office.
Not sure what to make of it, my brother went, feeling a bit uneasy.  At the office, my brother was congratulated and asked whether he had any sales experience.

“No!” he answered.  The boss continued by saying that my brother should forget about the computer department and focus on being a salesperson.  He had natural talent for this field and would become undoubtedly extremely successful; more than he ever could being a computer tech.

After thinking about what the boss had said, my brother asked him: “And will you train me?”

“Training?” his boss laughed; “Why son, anyone who can calm down Mrs. ……., and sell her an additional quantity of over $500,000 worth has all the training he ever needs!  No, I am not going to train you.  You already got it.  In fact I think you can train us!”

Then looking at my brother with a stern face he said: “Take my advice, you are a salesman.  That is your gift to this world.  That is your strength.  Trust me when I tell you this for I have seen them all.  Your natural ability to soothing people will one day make you very rich”

Taking his boss’ advice, my brother became a salesperson the very next day.

That was 10 years ago.  Today my brother is an independent salesperson who’s being sought after by companies wide and large.  Daily he gets offers to sell products for companies that offer him the world.  His annual income exceed $3,000,000 and that’s only commissions and does not include bonuses and other perks.

Last time I was home I got a chance to spend some real quality time with my brother.  I asked him point blank to what he contributed his enormous success.  After all, here he was, a frail, sickly, inexperienced young boy who wanted to be a computer tech and ended up being the most wanted (in a good sense) and highest earning salesperson anyone in Western Europe has ever seen.  How did he do it.

This is what he answered me:

“When most people spend their time talking I spend mine listening!  It’s by listening that I discover what the other wants or needs.  Once I know that, all I need to do is give them what they want or need! You know it’s funny, this is probably the most I talked all day.”

Discover your strengths, work on them, use them and watch your world explode.  Just like my brother, you too can be that successful when you use your strengths to benefit others.  The world is your oyster.


To Your Success;

Lode


Next Article: answering questions from readers.  Stay tuned.